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Cooperation Of Introverts And Extroverts | Different Doesn’t Mean Evil

August 15, 2022, 5-min. read
Cooperation Of Introverts And Extroverts | Different Doesn’t Mean Evil

Introverts and extroverts are two camps of people who meet every day, and although they are each distinct, they need to be able to operate together.

Simply put, the most notable difference between the two is the orientation to the external and internal world. While extroverts are oriented to the outside and crave interaction with their surroundings, introverts are oriented to their inner world and desire to have peace and space to immerse themselves in it.

As a result, introverts have more profound experiences. Their emotions come on gradually, and they experience them internally, without it being easy to tell at first glance. They can concentrate better, immerse themselves in their thoughts, consider, plan, evaluate, and work with facts and ideas. If they speak, they present mature and thoughtful opinions, usually really to the point.

But they need time to formulate them, so it is more typical for them to engage in communication sporadically and to listen more. This can make it more challenging for them to assert themselves in a more dynamic dialogue where more extroverted people are swifter in taking the floor.

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In contrast, extroverts, with their outward orientation, make their emotions and experiences known. They are more expressive, more expressive in their speech, facial expressions, and gestures and have more animated vocal expressions. It is important to them how things look and how they present themselves externally. They crave stimulus, like to communicate, and like to be in contact with others, from which they draw energy and drive.

They are talkative, immediate, and spontaneous. They don’t hinder themselves with unnecessary considerations, and because of this, they enter into communication promptly; they have no problem sharing even ill-considered ideas. They can be hastier, less disciplined, and lack the patience to listen and jump into others‘ speech.

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But in reality, most of us are not just pure extroverts or introverts. More typically, we locomote between the two poles and may behave and experience differently in various situations. Even expressive extroverts like to curl up with a book occasionally, and even an absolute introvert can go out to party. Moreover, people can take on different roles and behaviors situationally than is typical for them if they want to and are motivated to do so.

The difference is not in the behavior but in how much energy such behavior costs us. If the expressive extrovert is coached and treated by a therapist, they will be tired after a few sessions because listening attentively costs a lot of energy. Similarly, an introverted actor or lecturer is wholly exhausted at the end of the day by how expressive and lively they are.

The differences between the two temperaments can manifest themselves in the context of collaboration, where something different suits everyone. Extroverts love to discuss, are vocal, and look to those around them for inspiration. On the other hand, introverts need to concentrate on their work and have the space and time to think through solutions quietly. This can lead to disagreements and arguments. Extroverts expect a quick and immediate response, while introverts expect respect and consideration, including not being disturbed.

So how can we work together in a way that makes both parties happy?

1. Know about each other – know each other

The first step to good collaboration is to know which group our colleagues and we belong to. Suddenly they are not different and strange to us, but we know why and how they behave, what they need, and what suits them. The moment we know this, we have the key to understanding others.

2. Don’t label – respect

The second step is to respect the otherness of others and not label them. For extroverts, introverts can be antisocial silent weirdos. Conversely, introverts may see extraverts as superficial buffoons who like to show off. Such an assessment comes from the fact that we often consider others as bad automatically. But that says more about ourselves than the people we label. It’s good to remember that it’s natural that we are all different, and in turn, this can bring us many advantages.

3. Expecting others to change

Respect also relates to not expecting others to change or conform to us. On the contrary, we ourselves should try to adapt the mode of cooperation to suit everyone. Extroverts will be comfortable with discussion, sharing, or brainstorming. Introverts, on the other hand, need to be able to prepare and think about the topics in advance.

4. Know how to use your strengths

Ideally, we can use the strengths and assets of both groups. Extroverts will be happy for any opportunity to negotiate, present or demonstrate something in person. In contrast, introverts can excel when something needs to be researched, planned, described, or prepared. Extroverts will be successful wherever speed, quickness, and improvisation are necessary. Introverts, on the other hand, where analysis, thoroughness, consistency, or patience are needed.

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So the magic of cooperation between the two camps is that they complement each other perfectly. Both need the other because they are more successful with them than they would be alone. This, even if they get on each other’s nerves at times 😉.

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